What happens if your only support system breaks?

Family Separation 

Growing up in a broken family can be more than what we expect. It can cause extreme amounts of pain and confusion. You wonder what it will be like if you were to be in that situation, you wonder why your parents separate and you wonder if they will ever get back together again. All these questions you grow up trying to find the answers, but when you realize it usually it’s too late and you will always have a broken family, whether you like it or not.

Despite all of this you have to let it go, you have to continue with your life. No matter the pain, the images and the emotions that get out of control, there is no choice but to put it at the back of your mind and continue with your life. But yes it is hard every student going through this has their own coping mechanisms. Some choose to rebel, some become introverts and some just pretend like nothing ever happened.

So what is it like to go through this? What is it like to wake up with your parents arguing and fighting? How does it feel to come home to one less parent?

You sit in class while the professor does his job explaining in detail the lesson, suddenly you are called out and all that flashes through your mind is the thoughts and images of your parents and everything comes crashing down. Family is what holds us together it is what we have left at the end of the day. No matter what family is what holds our back at the end of the day and there is nothing stronger than our blood bonded to each other. But having parents separates just tears down the walls of our hope to love.

All of this is a distraction not only will the student not understand what is going on but in general they will find it hard to study and to do any type of work when it comes to school because their minds will be distracted. They will constantly have family problems in their mind and will find it hard to cope with school.

Its times when we see families sitting together laughing and bonding while you have a part missing from you that you eventually realize you will never get back. Family holds us together but when it’s gone, we have nothing else to hold onto but ourselves, we have to piece everything together and focus on what’s important, and that’s the sad truth.

Students have to know their priorities and no matter what happens in their lives have to leave it all behind or maybe even bury it just so that they can focus on their future. Many students lose their direction and paths in life because they don’t have that guidance, they don’t have that support from their parent and even if they live with one parent, one parent cannot do two jobs perfectly.

A job of a father is different to a mother, for me it is necessary to have both parents there for their children guiding and helping them. Based from experience without the time of both their parents they seek elsewhere for guidance and become more curious, without proper guidance they tend to go the wrong way in life. They seek to figure things out on their own.

For example students will try things and experiment such as alcohol, drugs and sex and will keep on doing it, until it is all too late. Your parents hold you and show the way but without this they turn out to be different to other students, where their family background gets in the way of their studies.

This can be one of the biggest distractions that a student faces, not only does it get in the way of their studies but it can also effect and change the way they see things and act such as when it comes to being in a relationship of their own or socializing with people. They will lose hope in falling in love and will not value being in a relationship as much as others. Socializing with others can be another issue it can affect them the most when their parents break up at an early age when their minds are still developing and they still do not understand what is going on. They become confused and see a horrible side to being in a relationship.